I gave up being angry at myself and with others; understanding where the anger came from and releasing all aspects of this. Discovering what I was truly angry with or at, is key. There is always a root cause. Just ask the simple question, 'what are you angry at really?' not in that moment, but deep within, hidden, waiting to be recognized and cared for. For me, I believe that the anger also came from a place of acceptance and wanting to belong. As children, we often get conflicting and confusing messages, which we strive to understand. Not living from a place of anger, not being angry is amazing.
I gave up beating myself up about my past. We all have a past. We have all done amazing and wonderful things in our past. We have also all made mistakes, bad choices, errors and such. Focusing on these things without learning from them, takes us to a place of sadness and sorrow. See the good, the beauty and lessons in every area! See what you have learned, how you have grown and where you are headed BECAUSE of your past!